Life can have it’s up’s and down’s. I mainly focus on the positive events in my life, since there is no point in being brought down by negativity. This applies for everything else; it’s not the end of the world when bad things happen. You just have to find an alternative route to achieve your goals. But when awesome things happen, feel free to share the the experience as you please with the consideration that there is no need in sharing every little detail.
On Tuesday, I spent a few hours going to the mall with my wonderful boyfriend. We walked around the mall looking through some shops, ate some delicious watermelon-mango-strawberry ice cream (and smoothie), and went along to watch Brave. I enjoyed the whole experience and I am pleased by how things turned out. Needless to say, I had a lot of fun and enjoyed every moment of it. That is probably as detailed as I would go. ^__^.
Being old as I am, I always have people coming up to me asking for advice. Apparently, the advice I give are actually useful and applicable upon their situation(s). As much as I would like to share how awesome my boyfriend is (which would be a never-ending post), I will share some of the situations I have experienced and used it upon my advantage when giving advice to others. Do note that the examples I am providing are true except I’m not mentioning any names.
“It’s perfectly fine when people care about you. Just don’t expect them to tell you that.” — A few months ago, one of my friends confronted me thinking that I never cared about them. The truth is, I do care about my friends for their well being; I just don’t “show it” because I believe it’s something that happens with it being unsaid. We went through a whole debate discussing when someone do care and when someone doesn’t. Basically if they want the best out of you, they care. And if they don’t… Well, that person doesn’t deserve friends for being a sore loser. How did I end up giving this advice to others? One of my other friends thought no one cared about them; I bought up this quote and reassured them that their friends have always been there for them (which is true).
“Don’t give up. Keep on trying.“ — This is probably one of the most generic advice that is given in history. Ever since I joined marching band officially in the end of freshmen year, I always wanted to be in that All City Band. The problem was that I was a woodwind player (and a really good one too) and switching to a temporary brass instrument can ruin my embouchure according to my band director. After 2 years of asking/bugging, my band director finally allowed me to join All City for the sake of me needing community service hours. In this case, one of my “band kids” always wanted to be in the band’s leadership.. Except he didn’t get chosen the first time around because of seniority and thought it was the end of the world. I told the kid that he has plenty of time to redeem himself and earn a position in leadership- as long as commitment and interest is shown. With that shown, the kid surely earned a position in the band’s leadership team this year.
“Patience.” — I always tell people that having patience is the key to success. I can’t really think about any experiences I have faced that relates to patience because there is just too many. As for where the advice kicks in, one of my close friends has a “crush” on someone that they recently met.. Seeking me for advice, the first thing I asked them was, “When’s her birthday?” and there was no answer. If you barely know someone, know more about them first before making such commitments. It definitely helps and in order to do that, you must have the patience. If something unfortunate pops up, I just remind them that they’re only 14/15 years old and they have a whole life ahead of them. I don’t discourage anyone from pursuing these events, but I do remind them that they have a lot ahead of them in life.
Of course, there are more successful advice’s that have been given by me. I suppose three advice is enough for this blog post. And for now, I will continue on enjoying life.. Because life is awesome.
On Aug 16,2012 at 6:54 pm, Coryl wrote:
Oh my goodness, watermelon mango straberry sounds so delish.
You couldn’t be any truer, Nancy, especially with the first one. I don’t often show people I care about them. And, when I do, it’s in an unorthodox way, and it mightcome off as awkward and weird to people who don’t really know me. Like, I have a tendency to nuzzle my face on friends’ shoulders. Yeah. Could be real awkward for some.
One of my favourite pieces of advice that I’ve used is “Expecting nothing guarantees no disappointment.” It really bothers me when other people expect so much from someone. Like when they don’t even ask them to do something and just expect them to it. Lo and behold, someone won’t do what another expects, and then that person is left feeling angry and disappointed.
I mean, if you want somebody to do something, you just ask them.
People are moving to Barrie because it’s too pricey to live in Toronto, or because they’re rich cottage-goers. There aren’t really people moving to Barrie to do stuff in Barrie. They either commute to Toronto, or they spend their time up north in cottage country.
I’m so excited for university!! Oh my goodness! Everyone is telling me how much I’m going to love it, and I just sit there going, “I KNOW. LET ME LEAVE ALREADY.” Unf. It’s going to be great. ♥
On Aug 17,2012 at 5:04 pm, Chynna wrote:
Wahoo! A little sneak peek into the daily happenings of Nancy and her boyfriend. You’re truly smitten, it’s adorable :D How was Brave? I want to go see that.
You can care about someone without needing to overtly express it, like shouting “I CARE ABOUT YOU” in their face. That’s a bit much and if they don’t notice that you care then they just aren’t looking properly.
I always get told by my mum to not give up but sometimes I’m just like, “Ugh, is it worth it?” I just kind of stride along in life, at the moment. It’s a bit of a blur, really.
I’m the most impatient person ever, I think. Like with little things like waiting for people – if I’m there for more than 10 minutes then I’m gone or waiting for results has me tearing up my hair. I don’t know, I always feel the need for things to hurry up :( Maybe that’s why when I got to university I was just swept up by the whole having independence – I can do what I want, blah blah and just jumped into a relationship. Ha, look where that got me.
Hurrah for free shirts! & LOVE your gangster writing. :P
On Aug 18,2012 at 10:34 am, Joy wrote:
Sounds like you had a great time with your boyfriend!
“It’s perfectly fine when people care about you. Just don’t expect them to tell you that.” is something I have began to come to terms with especially with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for so long but communicating about the issue has solved so much with us. I get that he cares and he’s actually showing that he cares.
On Aug 19,2012 at 6:31 am, Cza wrote:
Being the older one sure has its benefits eh? :D In my circle, nobody wants to be the “older” one, and being one of those not-so-fortunate in the age department, I have to be the big sister to most of my friends. Secretly though, I find it fun. :D The aspect of giving advice to younger peers has definitely got me hooked and it certainly is rewarding. :D
I can relate to what you said about people caring for you. I too tend to have trouble expressing how I really feel to those people I truly care for. Most people I’ve been friends with for a short period of time get loads of compliments from me, whereas those I love often have a hard time tolerating me. At the end of the day those compliments will mean nothing, whereas the struggles I have with my loved ones will define and strengthen my relationship with them. I guess I can say “tough love” is more of my style.
On Aug 19,2012 at 8:37 pm, Kanji wrote:
Thankyouuuuu…!!!
I was in a mood where I really needed to read that. I’m glad I stumbled across it :)
On Aug 21,2012 at 6:52 pm, Michelle wrote:
That is great advice(s lol) and I can relate because I’m the kind of person that needs words to be assured sometimes but even then, they don’t have meaning unless actions back them up.
How was Brave? I keep hearing mixed things about it but my fiance wants to watch it.I promised to keep an open mind about it.
On Aug 22,2012 at 8:36 pm, Christa wrote:
Sticking to looking at the good things is what everyone should do, sometimes it’s just so hard. I know that for a fact – which sucks. And if you’re “old”, what am I?! HAHA! People so ask me for advice but 95% of the time it’s dealing with their boyfriend/girlfriend problems.
Watermelon mango strawberry ice cream…I must hunt that flavor down around here! That sounds SO good.